kh - pp - bisexual image symbolIndividual Psychotherapy for Bisexual Men

At the Men's Life Skills Center, we have staff clinicians who are gay, and ones who are straight.  We believe in staffing according to the diversity of the community of Los Angeles that we serve.   

It's true that there are many straight therapists who treat gay clients, and many gay therapists who treat straight clients.  We believe in supporting our clients in any demographic from which they come. 

Bisexual men in therapy face some additional obstacles that other people don't.  For example, you're probably already aware that bisexual men can often feel "left out" because the straight community thinks they're just gay, and the gay community thinks they're just gay but not fully "out" yet.  In our experience, this kind of thinking invalidates the feelings, perspectives, and life outlook of bisexual people.  In the LGBT community, it has been argued that the "B", bisexual, has been the most psychologically, socially, and politically neglected.  Psychotherapy services and their practitioners often lack the ability to treat gay clients in a truly gay-affirmative way, and if they are well-meaning and "gay friendly", those practitioners are far too often left at a loss to treat bisexual clients with sufficient "cultural competency" of their work.

At the Men's Life Skills Center, our staff clincians "get it".  We have the specialized training and experience working with bisexual men that is needed to work with this population competently and compassionately. 

Bisexual men can feel many differents kinds of pressures.  They can feel, at times, "forced" into functioning as many straight guys would, in monogamous, heterosexual, procreative relationships with children.  Other times, they can feel "forced" into being a part of the community, when they are conflicted because emotional and sexual feelings towar women.  These pressures can weigh heavily on bisexual men, before we even get to the "usual" problems that one might seek out help from a therapist for.

At the Men's Life Skills Center, we START at a "bisexual affirmative" place, and accept you as you are.  We help bisexual men refuse to be pressured into something — all straight or all gay — that they are not.  We help you define and strengthen your sense of self.  We don't pressure you into some kind of junk-science, "sexual orientation change effort" (SOCE), or  help you to "get rid of unwanted same-sex attractions"; that's just unethical therapy that is really just religious bigotry wrapped in "clinical" terms.  It's unethical, and ineffective.  At the Men's Life Skills Center, we use only evidence-based, LGBT-affirmative, mainstream, ethical therapy. 

At the Men's Life Skills Center, we respect the investment of time, energy, and money you make to undergo therapy sessions, and we strive to give value to each and every session we work in together.  You will always receive the personalized service you deserve.

You don't need to do anything other than describe what's bothering you in your life that you'd like to reduce or get rid of, or what's missing from your life that you would like to add.  Our staff of therapists are trained in techniques such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Developmental Psychology, Existential Psychology, psychodynamic therapy, and others, with special emphasis on issues specific to men's psychology.  We help you "pick up" where your ability to deal with certain problems ends.  We help you strengthen your ability to cope, and change your life where you need or want to. 

The one constant in life is change.  Managing your life, building a career, developing satisfying relationships, and taking care of your emotional and physical health are things to strive for, to bring you a sense of meaning, purpose, and contentment to your life.

But sometimes things don’t quite work out as planned, and you’re faced with having to handle the situation, sometimes feeling like you’re doing it all by yourself.  You’re trying to handle a life challenge, but you’ve lost control of the problem and are feeling confused. You may have trouble falling asleep over it, or you may have difficulty getting out of bed in the morning. Maybe you feel anxious and worried about the future, and how these problems are going to work out.  You could be having conflicts with people, including others you care about.  Maybe you’re sad and frustrated because you just don’t like yourself very much these days.

Individual therapy can help you resolve current life challenges, and improve both your personal and professional relationships.

When facing life challenges of many kinds, taking responsibility to take care of your yourself and managing your life sometimes means reaching out for help.  During hard times, a qualified, caring, professionally-trained therapist can help you see your problems from a different point of view, help you discover solutions that were previously "hiding", gain important new insights about yourself, and teach you new strategies for coping with your challenges that will guide you to faster resolutions.

For more information in a free, 15-minute phone consultation, or to make an appointment, call 310-726-4357, or email Ken Howard, LCSW, at