kh - pp - straight manIndividual Psychotherapy for Straight Men

At the Men's Life Skills Center, we have staff clinicians who are gay, and ones who are straight.  We believe in staffing according to the diversity of the community of Los Angeles that we serve. 

It's true that there are many straight therapists who treat gay clients, and many gay therapists who treat straight clients.  We believe in supporting our clients in any demographic from which they come. 

Straight men in therapy face some additional obstacles that other people don't.  For example, one of the biggest stressors straight men have is that they are expected, even pressured, by society to fulfill a lot of societal obligations — as husbands who at least in part support their wives, as sons who might be expected by their parents to give them grandchildren, and as breadwinners in society.  Traditionally, straight men are relatively under-served by mental health treatment.  Time pressures due to work, family obligations, pressures to make money, and the stigma of receiving mental health services by family or peers, or the fears of being perceived as dependent or weak can be barriers to the kind of counseling opportunities that straight men need.

A man doesn't need therapy to undergo it; the idea of needing therapy is hurled at some point like some kind of insult.  Everyone calls a therapist when they feel like they need or want to, in order to stop feeling bad about a certain situation, or in a desire to feel better about something.  A person who doesn't go to therapy is not better or healthier than one who does not; in many cases, the opposite is true.  Calling a therapist and starting work is the first step in addressing the problem so that you overcome it, or at least mitigate it.  Often, calling a therapist is saying, "enough is enough." 

At the Men's Life Skills Center, we think that it's actually a sign of strength to step up to the plate and ask for help.  It's bold; it's intelligent; it's pro-active; it challenges complacency. 

At the Men's Life Skills Center, we respect the investment of time, energy, and money you make to undergo therapy sessions, and we strive to give value to each and every session we work in together.  You will always receive the personalized service you deserve.

You don't need to do anything other than describe what's bothering you in your life that you'd like to reduce or get rid of, or what's missing from your life that you would like to add.  Our staff of therapists are trained in techniques such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Developmental Psychology, Existential Psychology, psychodynamic therapy, and others, with special emphasis on issues specific to men's psychology.  We help you pick up where your ability to deal with certain problems ends.  We help you strengthen your ability to cope, and change your life where you need or want to. 

The one constant in life is change.  Managing your life, building a career, developing satisfying relationships, and taking care of your emotional and physical health are things to strive for, to bring you a sense of meaning, purpose, and contentment to your life.

But sometimes things don’t quite work out as planned, and you’re faced with having to handle the situation, sometimes feeling like you’re doing it all by yourself.  You’re trying to handle a life challenge, but you’ve lost control of the problem and are feeling confused. You may have trouble falling asleep over it, or you may have difficulty getting out of bed in the morning. Maybe you feel anxious and worried about the future, and how these problems are going to work out.  You could be having conflicts with people, including others you care about.  Maybe you’re sad and frustrated because you just don’t like yourself very much these days.

Individual therapy can help you resolve current life challenges, and improve both your personal and professional relationships.

When facing life challenges of many kinds, taking responsibility to take care of your yourself and managing your life sometimes means reaching out for help.  During hard times, a qualified, caring, professionally-trained therapist can help you see your problems from a different point of view, help you discover solutions that were previously hiding, gain important new insights about yourself, and teach you new strategies for coping with your challenges that will guide you to faster resolutions.

For more information in a free, 15-minute phone consultation, or to make an appointment, call 310-726-4357, or email Ken Howard, LCSW, at